SEX - I understand that some of you have arrangements with your committed others, to be in plural relationships or open marriages - I will not judge, it is none of my business. If it works for you fine. That does not work for me. My First rule, keep your hands off anyone but your committed partner, PERIOD. The intimate sex act binds you together “chemically”- makes changes to your immune system, and exposes you to toxins, and possible blackmail. (Not to mention what it does to you emotionally.) But the main reason is that cute secretary or distinguished gentleman on the train, will never see your scarred and wrinkling body as the 22-year-old you once were. They won’t stay around and help you to the bathroom when you are too weak to walk, wash your hair when you can’t use your arms, dress you and tie your shoes, then celebrate with you when you are stronger, with joyous passionate sex. They are more interested in your bank account, a step up the ladder at work, or another conquest. Your partner’s vision of you is colored and obscured by what you have been to each other. And that is a Good Thing.
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How enlightening. Me, me,me. No wonder many of the so-called partners choose to walk rather than stick around to be the serf.
I don’t understand how you got that it was Me, Me, Me–as this blog is only the opinion of my husband and myself. I appreciate that you read it, but am afraid that you did not get my message–Which was that no one sees you “through the eyes of love” as someone who has loved you for long–and no one could love and care for one as much.
I also was a little confused by your response. The reference to a long-term partner as a “serf”, especially in this context, escapes me. I began to offer my thoughts, but they took me far enough away from the original post that I decided to offer them in a new post which can be found here.
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