Nightshade, solanum, nicotiana tabacum, sounds a little ominous. Cigarettes, cigars, pipes now it doesn’t really sound as ominous, does it. But if you look into what is in the smoke that is produced when the leaves of nicotiana tabacum are burnt then it sounds very ominous — tobacco-specific N-nitrosamines, benzene, formaldehyde, arsenic, cadmium, lead-210, polonium-210, ammonia, carbon monoxide, hydrogen cyanide, nicotine. Many would argue that if you do not choose to partake of the smoke of the leaves of nicotiana tabacum, then you should not be concerned about those that do. But there are aspects of smoke that are different for some other personal habits.
As much as smokers do not like to admit this, after they partake of the addictive habit, the chemical-filled smoke clings to their body and their clothes. It takes some time for this smoke to dissipate. Probably the majority of the population of non-partakers and non-addicts are either not bothered or only very mildly bothered by this residual pharmacologically-active, carcinogenic air. However, there are some individuals who are for reasons of birth, past medical history or injury extremely sensitive to this contaminated air. Recent changes in laws in many locales have made life in public places for these people much, much less difficult than it was in the past. But as one of those individuals, the number of times I have had to enter a public building holding my breath because the partakers are congregated around the entrance is impossible to count. I often have stepped out of the lift to my office floor when joined by a large group of partakers on their way back from one of their frequent addiction fixes. Has my action elicited comment? Yes and often not very pleasant comment. But you see, the contaminated air that follows the partakers is enough to trigger spasms of my damaged respiratory system. Certainly not in a life-threatening manner, but in a distinctly uncomfortable manner that lingers for an extended period of time. The reaction is one that very few people recognize is real mostly because there are no apparent symptoms. Honestly, for years I tried to just “grin and bear it”.
A few months ago, Still Here Too and I were at the extended and joyous celebration of the hopefully final wedding of one of her closest friends from her secondary education days. The entire sisterhood and most of their partners were also there. One of the sisterhood and a couple of the partners are, very unfortunately, partakers. Needless to say there were many trips outside from our multiple venues for their addiction fixes. There is one additional detail to add before I tell you just how poorly I handled the situation when the strain of being around the second-hand smoke finally got to be too much for me and I stopped “grinning and bearing it”. The member of the sisterhood who suffers from addiction to smoke of nicotiana tabacum has recently undergone treatment from severe disease and really should not be partaking.

- There is no way in hell you will ever convince me this makes a good meal better!
After about three days of “grinning and bearing it”, Still Here Too and I were at the dinner table with the addicted sister and one of addicted partners and an addiction-free sister. It had been a very pleasant evening following a very pleasant, but very long day. OK, I can get a like short and cranky when I let myself get more run down than I should. Slurping a few glasses of wine on top of being tired does not exactly improve my self control. Bottom line, the addicts were taking lots of fix breaks, as addicts do when they are slurping wine too. So after every fix break the residual gases hit my lungs a little harder. After about five or six times I was actually pretty uncomfortable. I could have moved away from that particular table, but there was no open seating. We were not ready to leave the occasion. So I made what in retrospect was a rather weak statement about the smoke starting to bother me. When that got no response, I made a big mistake. Rather than directly attacking the real issue, I attacked the sister for smoking so much when she had such serious health issues. FULL SCALE NUCLEAR EXCHANGE! And of course it brought one of the other members of the sisterhood in to defend the poor sister I had so needlessly attacked. It took a lot of discussion, through that night and also the next morning. Things are patched up with the defender. She actually understands why I reacted the way I did. Unfortunately I am not sure the addicted sister will ever really forgive me. Luckily it appears she only blames me, not Still Here Too.
The moral of this story? Second-hand smoke sucks! If you are addicted, I have real sympathy for you. I know it must be very, very difficult to deal with. But this shit is bad for you, bad for your relations, bad for anyone around you. So from now on, I declare myself a non-violent, militant anti-smoking activist. If you partake of the smoke of nicotiana tabacum in my presence in a way that I am forced to be exposed to the shit, I am going to directly express my displeasure. But I really don’t mean to offend you. I really hate to see you do so much harm to yourself. Sorry, I really didn’t mean to raise my voice so much …
Is Still Here








