We have posted a folow-up to this Post here.
Through our experiences with various medical challenges, we have developed a habit, which has become a general practice that we wish we had practiced from the very beginning of our relationship. Whenever possible, we accompany each other to our medical appointments. We do not just join each other for routine office examinations. Recently, Still Here Too has been present for some rather revealing urological exams that Is Still Here has undergone, (including prostate ultrasound and penile echo Doppler test - look them up — both involve acts normally reserved for just you and your partner!) This has been met with varying degrees of acceptance by the medical professionals. But we have usually been lucky in that except for test where it is just not allowed to be present, like MRIs, the partner has been welcomed.
Besides the obvious reasons; support and just getting to spend a little more time with each other - something we always seek; we have found very real advantages to having both of us at medical appointments and procedures. We always discuss what we want to communicate with the physician before we go to the appointment. With both of us there, we rarely forget to tell the physician what we meant to say, as we often do when just the patient is there - no matter how trivial the visit, being the patient brings a certain amount of stress. With both of us listening to what the physician or nurse says, we are much more likely to hear and understand clearly. We have the great advantage of being able to discuss what was said afterward. If we have any confusion, we know to call for clarification. Especially with some of the more technical testing, we both get to see the results; some of this stuff is really neat! When we are dealing with a really good physician, they will take the time to explain and answer questions, the best ones respond well to interest. We both just get very intrigued with the imagery stuff. Super cool, even if it is your own body - although is it übercool if it shows everything is normal! And finally, just in case, if by some odd chance there is some less than good news, we want to be there when it is first heard. We share our lives. We share every aspect of our lives. Our health has and is a major part of our lives. We live it together.
When you make a long-term commitment, you make it to share everything - so do it.
Is Still Here & Still Here Too