There are two beliefs that I hold strongly that might seem to conflict with each other. The first belief is that couples are better off remaining monogamous as long as they can be part of a couple. There are corollaries to this belief. Couples should try to remain couples for as long as possible. Couples are pairs; the sex of the two members is immaterial. Sex between the couple is really important! The second belief is that our society would be a whole lot better off if we had a lot more genetic mixing between people of different races and family countries of origin.
The conflict between these two beliefs arises because more often than not, people seem to choose people from a similar background or the same race as a long-term partner. I do not know why this is so. Perhaps it comes from family pressures, Perhaps it comes from some unconscious desire to maintain the conditions under which one was raised. Perhaps it comes about because those are the people who one is most like to meet because our society is still largely culturally and racially separated.
But I think there may well be true hope for our multi-racial, multi-cultural society. Every year I see more and more multi-racial and multi-cultural couples. My hope is they are in long-term monogamous, happy relationships. I think we would be better off with even more such couples.
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I agree. The more barriers that consistently are breached the stronger our society will be. If nothing separated us from each other so much less strife at least on the big issues, race, religion, etc. Then though, we’d probably kills each other based on family reasons, which happens on a secondary level now! I am an optimist and a humanist, but believe socialization prevents human beings from truly embracing anyone seen as “other.”
Wonderfully thought-provoking post!
Family is so important, but we cannot let them run all aspects of our lives. Nor can we interfere in our children’s lives. That is a temptation we must resist!