With age and a whole lot of experience in the art of love (read sex = intercourse), one thing has become more and more clear. Sex is much, much better between two people and especially when there is a strong element of giving involved. Exactly how life was at twenty years of age is a memory, and the mind has a way of remembering through a filter of “how we want things to have been”. But hormonal urgencies, most likely, at least occasionally induced actions of self pleasure rather than joint pleasure at that young age.
Oh it sounds so contrite, but if we had only known then what we know now. We could tell young people, but would they really listen? Canyoung people really believe that nearly sixty-year olds have hot and heavy sex lives? Do they believe that we have something to teach about what really should go on in the bedroom, and a few other places?
Don’t know if any of you are listening, but if you are, find your mate, hold them close, share, share, share. Enjoy.
Is Still Here & Still Here Too
Well said! Not enough written about sex after 40, 50, etc. Also here to say that it can get better and better, but both do have to work on it — daily.
Only thing I would add is that self-pleasure is REAL sex, and can augment or even replace couple sex for some. Just like any other sex, it takes practice and there is even a learning curve. It’s important for women to know how to have fulfilling solo-sex, for those times when they don’t have a partner, or if their sexual drive exceeds their partner’s. Men learn this art early on, but women are sadly discouraged from touching “down there.” So, like you said, share, share, share, but also experiment, experiment, experiment and ENJOY!