Can Orgasm Be a Gift?

Gifts are given are they not? Can orgasms be given? If so, would they be gifts. Is it all just semantics?

Is Still Here wrote about his com­pet­i­tive nature and how it creeps into our sex life in a recent post. Dr. Madeleine Castel­lanos wrote a very per­cep­tive com­ment to the post in which she said

“… The real­ity is that we do not give any­one else an orgasm, they allow it to hap­pen to them­selves. It is less about what we do, and more about what they think at the time. Less frus­tration and more enjoy­ment comes from focus­ing on the ris­ing and falling of plea­sure rather than judge the expe­ri­ence, or your­self by an orgasm”

Her advice is good and sound, espe­cially the part about not judg­ing the expe­ri­ence or your­self. This was exactly the short­com­ing in his per­son­al­ity that Is Still Here was “fes­s­ing” up to in his own strange way in the post.

But there is a point that in our younger years we would have been in total agree­ment with Dr. Castel­lanos but now in our more aged state we are not so sure we would state the case the same as Dr. Castel­lanos. That point is “we do not give any­one else an orgasm”.

But as we said at the begin­ning of this post, it might just be semantics.

You see, we find more and more a com­plete orgasm often, make that usu­ally, comes to each of us when the other assists through spe­cific focused effort. When younger, it was clearly more the tim­ing, the mood, the think­ing. Now it is very much the doing. It is still the other things too. Absolutely. But orgasm is not com­plete with­out the right doing. It is an age thing. At least it is for us. There is so lit­tle dis­cus­sion of sex and older peo­ple; we have no idea what is “nor­mal”. All we know is what works for us. For us, com­plete orgasm takes the other assist­ing. That feels very much like giv­ing. Giv­ing an orgasm. It may be seman­tics. But to us orgasm is a gift.

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