BDSM, a Better Understanding (NSFW)

I am dis­cussing the more extreme forms of BDSM; things I just could not under­stand before. My under­stand­ing has not grown to include any desire to par­tic­i­pate in these extreme acts. But what I think I have come to under­stand is that if any­one expe­ri­enced sen­sa­tions like I have expe­ri­enced lately and chose to will­ingly expe­ri­ence those sen­sa­tions again, then they must respond to the sen­sa­tions in a very dif­fer­ent man­ner than I do.

My recent surgery involved an instru­ment very much like the one to the right. While this tech­nique avoided hav­ing to cut through any skin or mus­cles along with the related pain and heal­ing time,  The cut­ting done down inside still caused sig­nif­i­cant tis­sue trauma. Let me just say that four weeks later, I def­i­nitely pre­fer a very soft chair if I have to sit for more than a few min­utes and a car ride of more than a few min­utes is not some­thing I greatly enjoy. Fur­ther, the stretch­ing and bruis­ing to the del­i­cate, sen­si­tive penile tis­sues has proven to take much longer to heal than I would have expected. That last bit sur­prised me. I would have thought those par­tic­u­lar tis­sues to be a bit more flex­i­ble that they are.

This new expe­ri­ence made me remem­ber that I had heard of men actu­ally inten­tion­ally insert­ing objects or hav­ing other peo­ple insert objects into their ure­thra. A quick search finds images like the one to the left. The object does not appear to be quite as large as the sur­gi­cal instru­ment, but given the way I feel, I have only one pos­si­ble con­clu­sion; the fel­low in the photo does not sense neural impulses the same way that I do! Some­where between the penile nerve end­ings and the brain’s plea­sure cen­ter his wiring dia­gram and mine is most def­i­nitely dif­fer­ent. There is no other con­ceiv­able explanation.

All I can say is if you find plea­sure in stick­ing for­eign objects in the end of your penis and you can fig­ure out how to do it with­out caus­ing your­self per­ma­nent bod­ily harm go right ahead. I will never, ever com­pre­hend the sen­sa­tion of plea­sure you expe­ri­ence. I have felt the sen­sa­tion I get from objects being inserted up my ure­thra, from the extreme of the surgery to smaller objects like the cam­era they used to decide to do the surgery. I will never choose to do this unless I absolutely have to. But I accept that your sen­sa­tions must be beyond my capa­bil­ity to experience.

I guess I have to say I under­stand. I under­stand that you feel things that I can never feel. Per­haps there are sen­sa­tions that I feel that you do not feel. We really will never know. But so long as you, and I, cause no harm to oth­ers in seek­ing our indi­vid­ual plea­sures I am will­ing to accept each of us seek­ing what­ever it is that gives us that pleasure.

But just so I am clear, I will never accept any of us caus­ing harm to another to bring plea­sure to ourselves.

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